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Couples Today, vary in height and appearance, thought philosophy, professions, orientation, and gender identity. They all have their own preference, and most couples are different. With regards to age, some of the more recent developments are age gaps at a younger age. For example, 70 and 50 may not have seemed that awkward over the past 80 years but 16 and 40 is a rather new development in recent times. There are some age gap dating samples throughout history, along with reasoning as to why, for now, here is a couples age table for 20 to 40 from 2010 to 2016.
| Age Group Dating | ||||
|---|---|---|---|---|
| 25 and 32 | 19 and 25 | 65 and 81 | 57 and 65 | 35 and 39 |
| 18 and 26 | 22 and 23 | 20 and 35 | 35 and 52 | 23 and 29 |
| 28 and 29 | 35 and 50 | 24 and 32 | 75 and 80 | 22 and 25 |
| 20 and 22 | 40 and 65 | 18 and 22 | 45 and 24 | 24 and 33 |
| 40 and 49 | 28 and 28 | 29 and 32 | 19 and 51 | 17 and 23 |
| Comparative Analysis of dating ages for various different couples when they started dating each other or when they first met. | ||||
Professional Identification
Besides, the plethora of age differences, many readers or participants were fascinated by the various different lifestyles couples had. Not all couples represented in the table are represented in the following list:
educational identifiers
This indicates that there is possibly an educational discrepency in some couples, for example an attorney or doctor i.e. surgeon, would have at least 8 years of college or university studies completed on average but many of the other jobs would only require a high school diploma, if that, and likely not more than a bachelors degree.
Orientation and Gender
Couples also had various orientations and gender identity, even if this was not expressed in the relationship, the orientation and gender identity was part of at least one of the persons forming a couple's, persona. For example, a bisexual male, that was unable to find a male and a female to be part of an ongoing intimate relationship in a loving household, but was willing to form a relationship with at least one of the persons in their attraction profile and abide by the relationship agreement.
Many couples where in a relationship with a person who fit their attraction profile and matched their gender identity, orientation, and sexual expression. In other words, there were zero or no compromises in establishing a relationship agreement. Couples who had a few compromises, often less than five, were also considered to be an exact match or close match because often the compromises had a low priority in their attraction profile. These type of couples are often considered to have a high likelyhood of staying together for a very long time if they desire to be in a relationship for more than 5 to 6 years. The majority of couples don't think past 2 years, 1 year, or 6 months when they first start dating for a mid term to long term relationship.
Thought Expression
Thought philosophy can be things like expressions on ethics, acceptable conduct, private ownership, philanthropy, charity, community planning, workplace or home area contributions, social assistance participation, and things like morality or religion. It can include willingness to participate in educational programs, stay updated on civilization developments, and drivers or motivators for things like acceptable income levels, requirements for living arrangements, and necessary modes of transportations in order to participate in society beyond the bare minimum neccesary to obtain basic neccesities.
Couples are not always cohesive in thought philosophies meaning that they share enought things together that thought philosophy is deprioritized in an attraction profile in exchange for other factors like physical appearance, profession, shared interests such as hobbies or spare time activities, and compatible sexual expression. Minimal overlap on thought philosophy can work for some couples and it can be a cause for breach of agreement with other couples or attraction mismatch with potential couples. It'll vary and can include considerations like a household with the following composition: Buddhist/Muslim, Christian/Atheist, Hindu/Catholic, Communist/Capitalist, Saver/Charitable, Studious/Observational.
Different couples will prioritize thought philosophy different within a relationship or attraction profile.
Appearances and Expression
Appearance can be various things, most often physical appearance like height and weight, but also clothes, shoes, fashion, style, car, home, living arrangement, job, career, education level, social circles, hobbies, interests, and interactions with other humans. Not everyone has time to document or explain every minute detail of their life, most often appearances are not meant to deceive or defraud, and its important to get to know people and ask questions without being to proddy when people first meet.
Appearance will also have different priority levels on an attraction profile and relationship desirements list, for example being seen and going out contrasted to private social circles and access to interested activities. Manners, ettiquette, first impressions, and public or private presentation can all be part of appearances as well and will have various levels of priority in a relationship.
height
When it comes to height, that varies just as with age, or any other expression that a person may have that is desired to be shared or not shared in a relationship.
Thinking of relationships in the 20 to 40 age group from 2010 to 2016, the following representations show the diversity in heights amongst couples.
| Diversity of Heights in Intimate Couples | ||||
|---|---|---|---|---|
| 4'11" and 5'2" | 6'3" and 5'9" | 4'11" and 5'8" | 5'9" and 6'0" | 5'6" and 6'6" |
| 6'8" and 7'4" | 4'10" and 5'4" | 5'8" and 5'9" | 5'5" and 5'4" | 6'7" and 6'1" |
| 5'2" and 5'6" | 5'3" and 5'4" | 5'11" and 6'2" | 5'10" and 5'6" | 5'4" and 7'4" |
| 6'1" and 6'4" | 6'4" and 5'0" | 5'10" and 6'5" | 5'6" and 7'4" | 6'3" and 5'6" |
| 6'4" and 5'8" | 5'5" and 5'7" | 6'2" and 6'1" | 5'2" and 5'9" | 5'10" and 6'4" |
| height preference will vary by couple in a relationship profile | ||||
Closing Thoughts
Most couples or people looking for a relationship will have preferences or specific things in mind when looking for a potential partner or significant other, nobody is obligated to look for someone outside of these parameters unless the consensually choose to do so. Preferences can include things like time available to spend together during specific time periods or intervals in addition to shared intrests, activities, and perceptions, views, or perspectives on low priority prefrence items.