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The United States is known for free sex, liberal attitudes on sexual conduct, and encouraging people to explore without being timid. What happens if that exploration leads to environments that cause extreme discomfort, perceptual analysis, and self reflection on wants, needs, desires, and preferences?
While most people want intimacy and human connection, many people don't find sex very gratifying, stimulating, or even interesting. This is possibly due to the current work pace or changes in human biology caused by an overpopulated Earth. Each new person creating an additional risk assessment at intentionally or non-intentionally adding another human to our environment.
Sexuality is something very special and private to most people under 50. That age seems to be a dividing line for many concepts such as economy, freedom, sexuality, privacy, and family life. Even if people get along and there is no conflict amongst age groups, things that are blatantly obvious to one group might require extensive explanation in another. Time commitments, often make extensive dialog undesirable in the modern context, where being overly brief is seen as rude in the recent past.
While a recent report states that teenage pregnancy is at around 30% in some areas, the other 70% of women over twenty that did not get pregnant as an adolescent have a different take of sexuality than in the past.
Some women have high sex drives and others have a very low need to satisfy their urges. Mandatory couples counseling in sex ed and professional environments, even for single people, have simplified this conversation. What used to be difficult arguments drawn out over very many years are now simple 5 minute conversations. Phrases like "I don't like having sex more than once or twice a month", or "anything more than once in a six month period is too much for me" sets the tone for a relationship or a casual friendship. Drives and motivators in sexual conduct and promiscuity have brought the conversation on compatibility or chemistry to a comparison of measurements and the willingness to compromise.
First stage classification of sex drive and sexual interest
| Low Drive | Normal Drive | High Drive |
| 1-2 Times per year | Every 3-5 weeks | More than once per month |
| This is a starting point and not a definitive rule | ||
Exploring sexuality past a first stage classification can lead to data depth in a number of parameters that indicate the overall sexual expression of a specific person, gene group, social classification, or cultural group within a specific environment. Further data exploration can reveal more details on human sexuality.
High Sex Drive Assessment
| Low | Medium | Normal | Extreme |
| 1-2 times per month | Once per week | Multiple times per week | Multiple times per day |
| Second stage examination of a statistical data point | |||
With the high sex drive assessment, the measures can be classified as low-high, mid-high, normal, high-high, and excessive.
For high sex drives, people are normally looking at multiple times per week or multiple times per day. Even if a person is able to go several weeks without sex, they may not be sexually gratified with just one sex session and multiple sessions may be necessary once arousal is activated and consented to in order for them to feel satisfied. This is important for a partner to know as intentionally depriving someone of a known sexual trait can be considered abusive, even if non-consent is not.
Two to three times per week or three to four times per week is most normal for people with high sex drives and they can normally go up to a week, up to several weeks, and normally no more than several months without sex.
Multiple times per day is rare, especially when combined with multiple times per week. Here sex drives get complicated, but in the modern sense, its part of dating someone past the interest inquiry and answers are expected to remain confidential.
Self care and partner relationships are viewed the same as far as sexual contact. This is a departure from the past where self care carried a stigma. In many cultures a desire for self care is now a preference as it leads to lower std rates, decreases chances of pregnancy, and increases an ability of self reliance which can be helpful in a partner relationship. It can also reduce stress and lead to self discovery during cognitive phases of self care. For example, realizing preference, wants, desires, and needs while later reflecting on availability, choice, and environment.
For low to normal sex drives, 5-6 times a year is fairly normal in professional environments where gyms are used to burn off energy. While casual fridays six times a year indefinitely is rare, casual friends is more acceptable. People often remain friends for years but there is a lack of exclusivity even if some people are in relationships.
There is also difference for people in these groups between 5-6 times a year and 10.4 times or more for sexual interaction in a committed relationship or with a complete stranger. These are often conversations when entering dating areas and there are normally clinical psychologists nearby to direct people to their correct dating area.
In the immediate past, 20 to 25 for first sexual contact, including self care, was already normal in some areas. While this may not be feasible for many teenagers, self care is becoming an acceptable choice for many teenagers.
Other parents, prefer their kids have first sexual contact with another person and try to set them up on dates with other kids who have similar parents. However, if the kids aren't ready it might not achieve any results. They may also be waiting to decide with their peers on how they will develop their sexuality.
This affects all dating adults because it is currently acceptable to date outside of an age group almost universally. A 24 year old and an 80 year old couple wouldn't raise an eyebrow in many areas where fairly recently a 24 year old and a 30 year old were considered absurd and inappropriate. The current dating age is 16 to 50 in most places, with preferences on height, weight, shape, and age being part of a sexual history and some places having dating areas for under 24 only, or over 60. At 18, most adults can decide to drink on their own in many parts of the world globally. These laws are being proposed as being implemented in the U.S. nationally. Humans tend not to drink too often and excessively anymore anyways.
That rounds off the conversation on sexuality. Preference, drive, desire, intimacy, and things to do or activities outside of sex. Its perfectly normal to want a relationship, or not; and many people meet only for sex and don't speak with each other very much outside of that.