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Dating is part of human health and is a prioritized context of human existence for people that participated in the College Completion Challenge Grant Act of 2000 between the years 2000 and 2022. The current College Completion Fund Act of 2022 focuses on modernized credentials, financial stability, favorable work conditions, and social participation (UDHR art. 23 & 27). For many college graduates, independent work is going to be the only form of acceptable employment due to requirements they have to be available to more than one organization or employer.
This still leaves a large pool of people that are available for single organization work. Many allow outside projects throughout the year as long as it does not conflict with their organizations role or industry.
The work schedule for many college students and graduates between 2010 and 2016 looked something like this:
Before arriving at left over time, this is 115 to 160 hours of allocated time each week and anywhere from 54 to 12 hours of free time outside of work and school per week. Considering that a week contains approximately 170 hours total, this leaves between 1.5 to 7.5 hours per week for everything else including dating.
On average, a close relationship requires 25 to 30 hours per week of time spent together. A minimum amount of time together is about 10 hours per week for couples that are starting out or for couples that have recently gone through a schedule change. It is recommended to prioritize time together when dating, especially if considering long term or thinking about raising children together. With children in a household, negligence is a consideration that they will talk about in school.
For many people in college, the average free time of 2-4 hours per day can seem exhausting, and trying to allocate at least one 10 hour day each weekend to have fun and explore non work related activities can have varying success. Someone trying to date under these conditions can often create relationship problems as soon as the relationship starts and many college students and graduates are aware of this. When dating or marking an online profile as single, two new profile markers have been suggested as a way to respect privacy rights of those in a college program. Available time each week for dating, and dating multiple people or narrowed to one date at a time.
These new dating parameters help with a lot of things. Some people aren't willing to date anyone that is unavailable to dedicate the required 25 to 30 hours per week for relationship building. Even though 10-15 hours seems adequate when starting off, the full relationship requirements are necessary within 6 months to 1 year.
Currently, policy makers are making adjustments to college programs so that people have more free time. For example, 25-30 hours of school and 10 to 15 hours of projects that are invoiced during the school program. Then transitioning to a 35 hour work week with everyone else that is considering long term workplace context.
Its important to note updated words and terms. People consider dating as scheduled time together with anyone, this happened several years ago. People go on dates with their friends, co-workers, relatives, and workplace persons. Building a relationship, selecting a significant other, or looking for intimacy partners are more modern terms than dating; which is essentially setting appointments with people for an activity.
The main thing to consider when including college students or recent graduates in an approved dating pool is that they are short on time and everything is scheduled several months in advance. There is very little room for spontaneity, or for surprises or last minute changes. They also likely have very little time to date other people unless they are in an intimacy group or have a low commitment multiple partner dating profile.
A lot of college students find a relationship before starting school, or wait until they are done and settled into a new job to build a new relationship. While popular trends indicate that most college students are always partying and getting into escapades, this is a good way to fail classes and get kicked out of a program. Those contexts of college were usually from the past, the students were often from wealthy families and had jobs lined up for them; they just didn't want to start work right away.
For those willing to try a relationship with someone in a college program, in between semesters or when taking a semester off is a good time for an introduction. Meeting someone new at the start of a new semester, before starting a big project, or when being oriented for a new project or job role is likely not a good time to start a new friendship or relationship outside of the existing parameters. Any unallocated time, will take time away from something else; and that something else may be needed to pay rent or to maintain long term employment.